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What I offer
Executive Function and Attachment
Difficulties finding direction, completing tasks, and controlling impulses can lead to difficulties in all areas of life. Neurodivergent individuals often have more trouble making and keeping friends and relationships adding to shame and trauma. Past trauma and attachment injuries cement over time affecting our ability to fully engage with others in healthy and fulfilling ways. Trauma continues to creep in in ways that are sometimes unexpected and often uninvited.
MAPs and paraphilias
Individuals with alternative sexual orientations frequently suffer from shame and fear that affect their ability to connect with people. The constant worry of being discovered can hang like a cloud affecting every aspect of their lives. Like other minorities, individuals with atypical sexual orientations have an increased risk of depression, anxiety, drug use, and suicide.
Race and bias
Black, Indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC) experience implicit and explicit racism throughout their interactions. Subtle acts of racism can leave them second-guessing themselves and struggling to explain their experience to others. The fear of targeted conflict and violence creates an ever-present anxiety.
Men’s issues
The world is changing quickly and many men have difficulty navigating changing expectations of gender and relationship expectations. Social awkwardness can make it difficult to connect with others leading many men to involuntary celibacy (incel). Many males are raised to “man up” and hide their feelings leading to difficulties with anger and depression.
Kink and non-monogamy
The need or desire for kink and non-monogamy can create rifts in relationships and friendships. Before discovering themselves, many struggle with unsatisfying sex and relationships. The need for an alternate structure can create rifts in the relationship as partners may not get it and struggle through renegotiation of the dynamic.
Queer Issues
LGBTQ+ individuals have an increased risk of depression, anxiety, and suicide as well as being the frequent target of violence and harassment. Queer relationships, friendships, and sex can look very different from their heteronormnative counterparts.
“The inner historicity of all the relations in the lives of men consists in the fact that there is a constant struggle for mutual recognition.”
— Hans-Georg Gadamer, Truth and Method 367
